How To Learn To Take Responsibility For Your Life
Oftentimes, we blame other people for the way our lives are going. I have been guilty of doing this from time to time. Some of us are such negative thinkers that we have overloaded our minds with repetitive thinking and old habits that constrict it. Check out the following ways to disengage from this type of thinking from Deepak Chopra, alternative medicine advocate, physician, author and public speaker.
1. Become Aware
When our minds are constantly constricted, which happens when we use ritualized thinking, fear, habit and low expectations, it becomes like a tight muscle. You need to confront these obstacles in an honest manner. When you feel any mental discomfort coming on, you should try to expand your awareness. For example: if you feel resentful toward someone, know that this is a constriction of the mind. If you were more open minded, you would find it easier to tolerate the person, then see the good in them; before you realized, you'd stop looking for things that you dislike in them.
2. Take Responsibility
We need to take responsibility for our perception of our lives. Our mind is so powerful and if our lives aren't going according to plan, our minds are to blame. You may not like the idea that our minds create our realities, because then that would mean that we have a responsibility to make our lives what we want them to be, and we can no longer blame others. But know this: the power that we, as human beings, have to create our own realities, may be the best gift that we have.
3. Have A Higher Vision
We need to create a vision for what our lives are about. We need to ask ourselves questions like, “Who am I?” When we do this, we find passion and purpose that lasts because we aren't just looking for instant gratification. Instant gratification can come with watching TV, movies, playing computer games and even just hanging around. Open-mindedness can solve a huge amount of problems. Effective ways to do this are meditation, contemplation, self-reflection, counseling and if you believe in a higher power -prayer.
4. Make Use Of Your Success
We need to stop solely taking responsibility for the bad things in our lives and we need to learn to take responsibility for the good things, as well. If you landed a killer job, or have amazing friends around you and budgeted your money well enough to go on that dream vacation, you need to congratulate yourself.
Remember to consult your physician or chiropractor before taking any health advice.