How Do You Know if You're in a Bad Relationship?

The best way to learn is by making mistakes. This isn’t always the most fun way to learn, especially when it involves your romantic life, but nevertheless, sometimes it’s the way that leaves the biggest impression. This also works by observing other people’s screw ups.

If you see a couple making an obnoxious scene at a restaurant, observing such an awkward situation will make you realize that you never want to be that couple. In order to help you never get to that point, below are a few examples bad couple behavior that you should avoid in order to keep your relationship healthy.

Reminiscing About How Things Used To Be

The beginning stages of a relationship is usually nothing but rainbows, butterflies and fireworks. You can’t keep your hands off each other, he can do no wrong, and it’s all smiles and laughs. Those days need to be cherished, because that infatuation period fades, usually allowing for a deeper relationship based on more than just attraction. Nonetheless, that early period feels great, and although it may fade some, that doesn’t mean that it needs to go away completely. Dwelling on how things used to be, and comparing it to how unromantic things are now won’t help anything. Instead, communicate with your partner constructively, letting him know you want more physical and emotional intimacy. 

They’re Passive Aggressive With Each Other

The worst way to deal with a situation is by being passive aggressive. All it does is cause hurt feelings and won’t solve any of the underlying problems. Plus, you shouldn’t be making digs at the one person you are supposed to be most intimate with. You should be open, honest and communicative with your partner, allowing for healthy conversations where both parties get their feelings heard. 

They Need To Be Right

Ok, I have to admit that I am guilty of this one. I really had to do some soul searching and make an effort in order to change the fact that during an argument I always had to be the one who was right. My boyfriend would always tell me how exhausting it was to have those arguments, and that it wasn’t about winning, but about coming to a mutual understanding. Being right at the expense of your partner’s emotional wellbeing is not the way to solve problems. Remember, you guys are in this together, not against each other. 

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