How to Spot Truth from Fiction
By Sandy Schroeder
Do you sometimes suspect you are getting more fiction than fact in your daily travels? When a sales representative gives you “the facts,” do you check it out for yourself?
When you meet someone new, and the stories are just too good to be true, do you reserve judgment?
In today’s fluid society, fiction may try to pass for fact. But there are signs to watch for when you listen to someone. Dr. Travis Bradberry, co-founder of TalentSmart, an agency that services Fortune 500 companies, recently tackled this issue and offered tips.
Watch for these signs as you listen.
Body language says a lot – People who are manipulating the truth may unconsciously cover the mouth, or touch the nose, as they speak.
Something does not fit – The words and actions of the speaker do not quite work. A sad tale may be told with a smirk. Or a story about an experience may sound a little too polished to be real.
There may be excessive detail – If you just sit quietly and listen, the speaker may fill the silence with tons of detail, and repetitive statements. Struggling to win your trust, they may go overboard.
Body signs change – When someone spins a tale. heart rate and breathing may accelerate. When another person presents true information, everything looks different. Breathing is normal, and posture is relaxed.
Extra movement happens – People who are not telling the truth may tap the table, or fiddle with papers. Lots of motion may signal how the person really feels.
They seem ready to run – When the facts are less than credible, the speaker may seem too ready to leave quickly to avoid questions. Someone who offers a solid presentation will appear calm and relaxed. Ready for questions.
Eyes say a lot – Watch for changes in eye movement. People may look up or down when they are lying. Most look for an exit. They may repeatedly look toward a door.
Assertiveness grows – When there are holes in a story, people may suddenly take everything up a notch. They may peer at you, or speak louder to reinforce the words.
As you use these tips, hold your fire. There can be other reasons why someone’s eyes move around a lot, or hands fidget. The speaker could be nervous or just unprepared. Be aware, but keep watching to let the truth play out.
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