Just How Likeable/Lovable Are You?
By Sandy Schroeder
Everybody wants to be liked and loved. But how we interact on a day-to-day basis can lead us to succeed or just slide by.
I have worked with a lot of different people, and the most likeable ones all shared key traits. They all smiled a lot. They were all genuine. And they all reached out to the world.
Polishing our likeability skills can be fairly simple. Some believe we are born that way, but experts say the skills are part of our emotional intelligence and can be learned.
Travis Bradberry, co-founder of TalentSmart, an agency that services many Fortune 500 companies, encourages us to learn the skills and enjoy using them. He says likeable people are welcome anywhere. They build cohesiveness on the job, and they usually have more fun.
Likeable Skills to Use
Really Listen – Too often we may be thinking of what we are going to say instead of hearing what someone is telling us. Good listeners read expressions. Then they ask questions. Those conversations make friends.
Be Real – The people that I have treasured over the years were totally authentic. If they said it, they meant it. They were as good as their word, and everybody knew it. When my father passed away, everybody from his clergyman to his plumber were there with a good word about a man who did business with a handshake.
Be Present – If your phone is the third party in the conversation, you have already made it clear where your priorities are. Real connections are still made one-on-one.
Be Open to Ideas and People – It’s hard to connect if you have already built a wall of beliefs to judge others. We all have to assess as we go, but we need to leave the door open to different views, new ideas. You need to draw your own conclusions, but along the way you may make some amazing new discoveries.
Be Reliable – The people that other people gravitate to remain consistent, no matter what comes up. Even when they are overworked or challenged by other issues, you know they will do their best to follow through. That quality is hard not to like.
Be Friendly and Receptive – We all know someone who has to be the central focus of every group. Sometimes they are entertaining, but when you look for people that you want to be around, they probably are not at the top of the list.
As we head into the New Year, we can all benefit from making the most of these people skills to interact better; now, enjoy your new connections connections.
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