Life is a Mix of What Happens and How We React
By Sandy Schroeder
Sometimes, when major things happen, it is easy to become too upset. But if we really look around the world, most of what happens to us may not seem so major.
At the same time, learning to stay calm can help us navigate most of life’s challenges. Think about really calm successful people who handle major demands every day. Then think about other people who explode at the least little thing. The issues are much different, and so is the response.
How to Stay Centered
Learning how to stay centered no matter what happens can make a difference.
Start with a positive attitude – My dad knew how to do this. No matter what happened, he always had a smile and a twinkle in his eye. Often he was the only calm one in the room. But time after time that calmness helped pull things together.
Don’t waste time blaming others – When bad things happen, it is smarter to find solutions than pin blame. Think of smart people that you have worked with. No matter what happened, they usually continued to look for the next solution.
Learn to look for the positives – If people overreact, they may totally miss some solutions. Most of us know someone who does this. They tend to run in circles, bouncing off of everyone. Someone else may simply sit down and look for ways forward.
Try to step back when a crisis hits – Taking a minute to assess the situation lets you absorb the situation and come up with better answers.
Rely on previous situations – When a challenge arrives, think of other times that you have managed to survive. Each time you rise above the chaos and figure it out is a reassuring plus. It’s like the star basketball player who knows how to shoot a free throw because he has done it a million times.
Know you have choices – An immediate problem may be tiring, annoying, or even scary. But you can make a better response if you remember you have choices. Most situations do present options. Take the time to consider what they are and make the best choice.
Refuse to accept defeat – If you are a student of history, you know many famous leaders, authors, and generals suffered a lot of defeats before they excelled; Abraham Lincoln is one of those who come to mind.
The next time a crisis hits, step back and take a deep breath. Then remember you have been here before, and make the best effort possible.
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