How to Keep Your Cool Wherever You Are
By Sandy Schroeder
Staying cool and calm in spite of life's challenges really feels great when we get the hang of it. When we give in to worry, anger or impatience, everybody suffers. Work lags, communication fades and stress reigns.
DumbLittleMan.com suggests some simple ways to cope.
Don't make it bigger than it is - Avoid labels like "always" or "whenever" and just assure yourself that you can cope. You are bigger than the problem, and have weathered other situations that were worse.
Avoid spilling over - When a problem strikes suddenly, it is tempting to talk it over with someone and rummage through the details. Talking helps, but sometimes it is wiser to absorb what happened before you share it with others. In the heat of the moment you might make hasty statements or share confidential information. Later you could talk with someone about it without being as emotional.
Know that you can stay calm - You may be tempted to yell, slam the door, or just leave, but you can shift gears with a little effort and avoid making the situation bigger. If you deliberately lower your voice and stand your ground you may be able to downplay the situation and solve the problems more quickly.
Create the environment that fits - If you like low lights, background music or soft colors use them to create areas that help you stay calm.
Stay balanced with the basics - When you are losing sleep, eating poorly or fighting off a cold, calmness may go right out the window. When we are rested, healthy and well fed, it is much easier to stay calm.
Give it your best performance - To remain calm and not make a bad situation worse, it sometimes helps to deliberately lower your voice and slow the pace down. Picture someone who seldom gets upset and then try to duplicate that image.
Use transition strategies - You will probably be calmer and more receptive if you use buffers when going from one situation to another. After work, give yourself a few moments to calm down before rushing in the door to deal with your household.
Cool off with distractions - When a new challenge hits, use your favorite funny movies or friends to lighten up. When you come back to the problem it may not seem nearly as big of a deal.
Take some time off - If you find you are constantly losing your cool, it may be time to take an afternoon off or a weekend away. Everything often looks much better when you return.
Remember to breathe - Let your breath help you pause and regroup. Find a quiet spot to sit. Close your eyes and slowly inhale and exhale, letting go of everything.
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