The Art of Turning Yourself Off to Others
By Donna Stark
Aren’t you tired of always being on? Do you wish you could just take a day, or even a moment, to disappear and turn yourself off of everyone’s radar? Engaging with family, friends, coworkers, and your community can be exhausting, but you have become so good at it, haven’t you? The downside to your success in becoming so super is that now, everyone expects your help, your insight, your talents … your attention. It’s as if you have become the 24/7 superhuman to everyone but yourself. And with the abundance of ways that you can be reached, it’s no wonder you can’t get a moment’s peace.
Turn Yourself Off
Feeling as if you are everyone’s favorite search engine? Are they asking you first before they look things up on their own? If you are like some people I know, the more you respond, help, or make yourself available, the more people rely on you. And it isn’t always a healthy reliance. Too easily, it can become an enabling factor for those you are helping and an unhealthy need for yourself. So what can be done to bring a bit of balance to your life? Here are some tips.
- Set boundaries for accepting calls (no calls during dinner or after a certain time, for example)
- Leave your phone at home
- Let your children struggle, they’re only trying to make breakfast after all
- Turn off notifications on all social media and emails
- Set specific times to scroll through social media
- Don’t respond to that text or email right away, let it linger to give the problem time to work itself out
- Learn the art of saying “no”
- Learn to like the idea that you are not always needed
- Become unavailable … literally … for portions of your day or week
Of course for the big-hearted, always helpful people, these tips may seem like the worst suggestions in the world, ones that go against everything they believe in. But a healthy balance in life is important, it’s needed, and personalities don’t have to change simply because it’s added. And you know what else will be added right alongside it? Lots of spare time for yourself, tons of personal growth for your children, and almighty empowerment for everyone.
So try to incorporate some of these tips into your week, or try them all! It’s OK to do what feels right for you, because even if you start with baby steps, you will be sure to notice some major changes in how you feel and how people approach you. It’s time to close that 24/7 superhuman shop and open a new one … only this time, let’s post some different hours for you.
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