Quick and Easy Ways to Connect with Anyone
By Sandy Schroeder
Most of us have learned ways to meet people and gradually get to know them. But knowing how to quickly dial in a conversation and connect with a person takes a little more practice, and a few quick tips.
Connection is important everywhere we go. As we deal with our families, the world, our boss and our co-workers, the easier we can connect, the better.
Lifehack and Forbes have come up with some simple techniques to help us get started.
Always Pay Attention
You may already know what someone is going to say, but really listening to them say it can give you all sorts of clues to who this person is. Watch for clues in the way the person speaks, or seems to look away, or looks right at you. The more you read from their physical and verbal approach the easier it is to connect. Also, the less distracted the appear the better. You want them to know you are actually listening.
Get As Much Feedback As You Can
Lifehack suggests we speak to as many different people as possible -- in meetings, groups and one on one -- and that we look for the types of feedback we get. It will help polish your own speaking and develop ways to connect each time you speak.
Stay Focused and Ask Lots of Questions
Lifehack also advises asking lots of questions to put the focus on the other person and make them feel you're involved. If you have been in conversations with people who insist on dominating the conversation and telling you their views, you know how different that feels from having a conversation with someone who asks you questions.
Forbes echoes many of these ideas and adds a few more.
Be genuine - We have all listened to many people who are faking everything. So if you really want to connect with someone, be straightforward and honest. That makes connection so much easier.
Offer your help - We all have skills to offer, and simply offering your help can be a way to get to know someone better.
Do your homework - Figure out what you already know about the person and what common links in people or skills or places you may have. Those instant connections of recognition of familiar things can help you cover a lot of ground quickly.
Open the door to friendship - Whatever the situation when you meet someone new, friendship is always a possibility. So approach each new meeting with an open mind, a ready smile and an extended hand. Beginning connections can easily become long-term friends.
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