How to Stay Calm When Life is Definitely Not
By Sandy Schroeder
Most of us have run into situations where challenges keep coming up; Issues at home or at work can keep us awake nights when they continue to test us.
Your family may seem determined to do just the opposite of what you ask. Or your work may seem to generate more questions than answers. Whatever is happening, finding a way through it sometimes starts with a closer inspection. After some discussion, you may understand what is really going on.
Keep an open mind – It may feel like you are being deliberately thwarted, but usually there is more to the situation. Family members may have their own pressures. When you sit down to talk about it, everything makes more sense. Then you can come to a mutual agreement. Job situations have lots of facets that you may not know. Asking questions and talking to lots of different people can help to sort out the situation to tell you what to do next. When you understand the whole picture it is much easier to move ahead.
Weigh the situation carefully – Most of us are fairly open minded, but confusing actions need clear answers. Take the time to assess what others are doing. Then draw your best conclusions. If it looks reasonable, that’s great. If it seems questionable, that’s worth investigating further. It may be OK too, but you might need to do more research to assess everything.
Count to 10 – When a flood of new information rumbles through, it is natural to hesitate. Usually, it helps to count to 10 to let the situation play out. It may or may not be great, but you won’t know until the dust settles. Then you can give your best response. Sometimes the information changes, providing new opportunities.
Take a break – When situations become extreme, opting out for a break might be the best choice. Just stepping outside for a few minutes gives you a chance to clear your head and process the situation. I have worked in advertising groups where people quickly became excited and demanding. Letting everything cool off a bit usually worked to ease everybody’s nerves and find common ground. Together we did some great campaigns after everyone calmed down.
Have a Plan B - I had a wise friend many years ago who always told us, “Make sure you have a Plan B.” He was quite successful, and never seemed to be stressed. I suspect that was because he always had a Plan B to fall back on.
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