How to Stop Fighting With Your Spouse

By Randi Morse

Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that every relationship experiences fighting at one time or another. Anyone who tells you that they have never fought with their partner is either lying to you or is dealing with a larger problem in the relationship. When you're with someone for dozens of hours every week, eventually you are going to have a disagreement. Fighting with your partner does not mean that you don't love them, but it can cause a great deal of stress in your life. If you and your partner are fighting, here are a few things that you can do to help the situation.

Take a Step Back

Some people feel that once you get into an argument, you need to stand your ground until the disagreement has ended. This is not only unrealistic, it can also be unhealthy. One of the best things you can do if you are in the middle of an argument with your significant other is to agree to take a step back. This doesn't mean you should just walk away because that can come across as being rude and uncaring. Instead, tell your partner that you are worried the fighting will escalate if you continue to remain in the same area and that you feel it is best if the two of you walk away to take a breather for a few hours. This gives both of you the chance to evaluate the situation and calm down so that when you come back together you will be in a much better head space to tackle the problem.

Get Advice

Getting advice from a friend may help you be able to see things from a different point of view. When I used to fight regularly with my husband, I would contact my closest friend, briefly explain the situation, and ask if she thought I was being unrealistic. Her advice helped me to see things in a clearer way so that I was able to go back to my husband realizing that I may have been a little too sensitive about the topic. This doesn't mean you should blast all of your problems on social media. Using social media to air out your relationship difficulties only adds more problems. Instead, have one trusted friend or family member that you can go to with your concerns.

People are unique, interesting creatures, and we don't always agree, and that's a good thing. If we all agreed all the time, life would be very boring. That being said, fighting with your significant other is always stressful, so take a step back and learn to look for help so that you can end your argument as soon as possible.

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