Making Time for the Health of Your Relationships
By Rachel Shouse
We all know that some fighting in a relationship is normal. Unfortunately, a lot of us aren't equipped to identify other problems in our relationships. Some relationships are bound to not work out. Others may need just a little assistance. In order to work on your relationships, you need to prioritize the time for that. While time may be difficult to come by, can you really deny that putting the time in would benefit your future? Thus, making the time taken worth it. Learning how to identify healthy and unhealthy relationships is a great start. After you do that, you should learn how to both sever unhealthy relationships and build up the healthy ones.
What Do Healthy Relationships Look Like?
Even the healthiest of relationships is going to face a detour every now and then. The important part is that you come back together. In a healthy relationship there should be communication, openness, trust, making joint choices, and being content away from each other.
A good relationship may hurt from time to time, but it shouldn't be constant. There's really no numerical way to evaluate a relationship. There's no scoring system or test you can take. However, you should feel happiness more often in relationships than you do any negative feelings.
Identifying Unhealthy Relationships
Coming to terms with an unhealthy relationship can be extremely difficult. Some may have a spouse that's less than loving, a parent who drinks or does drugs, a friend who constantly takes and never gives, etc. It almost feels like grief. You don't want this to be reality, thus pushing you towards denial.
Once you get over the denial, be prepared to face other feelings. You could have anxiety over the situation, you may feel angry, or used. Understand that it's OK to feel the way you do. You're not crazy and you deserve to be happy.
Severing the Negativity
Don't expect every relationship to go well. There are going to be struggles, it's inevitable. Learning how to exit those relationships is wise. You may be able to end a relationship with a goodbye. It very much depends on what type of relationship it is and how the other person feels as well. Always be safe.
Now, onto a happy note. Be sure to put time into the relationships that you have and love. Just because a relationship is good doesn't mean no work is needed. Maybe it should be considered maintenance as this should be a continued behavior. Showing those you love that they really matter to you can guarantee them remaining in your life. Think about what the other likes and appreciates. It may be words, kind actions, gifts, etc. Don't be afraid to ask them either.
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