Relationship Missing That Spark?
By Randi Morse
At some point in time every relationship goes through a "rough patch." I define rough patch as a time when you and your partner just don't feel in sync. Your day-to-day lives may not be changed, and you know that you still love each other, but you're not as connected as you used to be. This feeling of separation can add stress and worry to your life, which can greatly affect your physical health.
Before you jump and assume that your entire relationship is crashing down, take the time to talk with your partner. You may feel as though everything in your relationship is going wrong but your partner may feel that everything is completely normal. If this is the case, explain to them how you are feeling and it's possible that the two of you, together, can figure out why you're feeling the separation but your partner is not. If your partner also feels like something isn't quite in sync with the two of you, there are a few things that you can do to help reignite the romantic spark again.
Take Time for Yourselves
It doesn't matter if you have children or not; far too often we get caught up in the daily grind and forget to make quality time for our partners. Do you remember when you first started dating and you couldn't wait to spend time with your loved one? How you were able to find time to spend, just the two of you, no matter how busy you were? That is what you need to get back to. Find time at least once a week to connect and just be together, with no one else around.
This doesn't mean that you have to go out on an elaborate date. Time together can be as simple as relaxing on the couch after the children have been put to bed and watching your favorite television show together. Try to make it special in some way. Light some candles, make a cheese or dessert plate, and shut off your cell phones. If you're watching something you've recorded, allow the commercials to play and talk with each other while they're running.
Find time to connect, even if it's just going for a long drive together. If you find the time to reconnect and remember why you fell in love in the first place, you won't have to look for that spark or try to force a connection, as it will naturally fall into place all on it's own.
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