How Remembering To Reach Out Can Make Someone’s Day
Recently I came across a message about giving, that reminded me of just how important it can be to the recipient and to the giver.
Jeff Haddon’s article on unselfish things says so much about what we sometimes do, and what we sometimes forget to do. He suggests speaking up to help others, on the job, at home, out in the world, wherever we see they are needed. Help make another person feel welcome whenever you can. All of us have felt this when we started something new, and seen it when we saw someone floundering.
Imagine just how hard it was for person who never exercises, to show up at a busy gym for the first time. Or how much pushing it takes to go to that new watercolor class for that very first time with no experience. Then if someone steps up, smiles and lends a hand, what a relief it can be.
Or, tell someone how good their work is. Too many times I have seen workers giving their best and doing really good work, but not getting much applause. If you see that too, do something about it. Send them a note applauding them. Or invite them out for coffee and sit down and really talk about the job, making them understand that they count.
What Haddon is suggesting I think, is a little extra, day to day, effort that says we care enough to take the time to reach out. He also reminds us to offer hope and encouragement to people starting new jobs, and give whatever assistance we can to those in need.
In our spin along world that never seems to pause, these little things can get lost. But if you watch for that surprised smile, or relieved expression that just blossoms when you do help someone, you will know these things do still count. Actually they count everywhere, at home with our spouse and our kids, out on the job, with new people, and longtime workers. Add a little thoughtful input and watch for the difference. Sometimes we assume people know how we feel, but it is always good to put it into words to make sure.
I think it can make the difference between good groups and great groups, and good moments and extraordinary ones. Sometimes I mean to say or do something, but get caught up and let the chance slip away. But when I do take the time to reach out, it can be an amazing reminder of what reaching out can do. Everything slows down just a bit, and brightens up a lot.
Look around and see where you can help. See where you can make someone feel they belong, or know that they are doing a great job. Then say so! Those extra smiles can be amazin