Happiness Boundaries for Ultimate Joy
By Donna Stark
I judge that we all have a deep-rooted desire to be happy and to bring happiness to those around us. Happiness can mean different things for different people, but that instinct, that rumbling in our soul that is always in search of it, is still the same. It’s human nature, it’s what we strive and work toward. No matter what shape or form it comes in, it propels us to move. And although the act of spreading love and happiness is never a bad thing, do you ever feel that by trying to make someone happy, you are hurting yourself or a loved one in the process? Is there such a thing as having “happiness boundaries?”
The goal of becoming a “Master Deliverer of Awesome Happiness” is a great dream, but do so at your own peril. Remember, you can only give your best if you are at your best, so pay close attention to how you are treating yourself in the process. If your actions to please others end up bringing lack of sleep, excessive stress, or poor health to your life then you may need to re-evaluate some choices. Here are some tips on how to achieve happiness while keeping yourself protected at the same time.
- Saying “no” - If you are like me, then you have experienced the moment when your mouth moves before your brain even has time to think. You don’t need to be a superhero for everyone in your life; it’s OK to say no and it’s perfectly fine to ask for some time to think about the request.
- Do the asking - Free up some of your own time to help others by asking for help yourself. Have family members chip in with chores at home, delegate some responsibilities at work, or set up a carpool for your child’s activities. It’s always more fun to do things together as a team than all alone.
- Stop feeling sorry - Are you racked with guilt every time you say “no?" Are you doing things simply to escape that feeling? It’s hard to not feel that way, especially if you really do want to help and can’t, but carrying around feelings of guilt or shame can have a significant impact on your health. These feelings can cause insomnia, depression, and anxiety, and can lead to actions that perhaps you wouldn’t normally take, so be very mindful of them.
Be Your Best
Taking care of your physical and emotional health is the foundation of happiness; it’s needed before you are able to then go out and spread it yourself. So find your consistent contentment, create that healthy body, and become the best “Master Deliverer of Awesome Happiness” that you can be.
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