Treat Yourself Better On a Regular Basis
By Sandy Schroeder
Most of us treat ourselves to special things once in awhile, but we might be wise to make it a daily habit. Instead of putting ourselves down, we should see what happens when we practice self-compassion.
Suddenly everything looks better. When I remember to do this, I find myself waking up early to get started with my day. The same positive effects that work so well when we encourage a friend can work for us too.
Think about what you do when you make an error or miss a deadline. Instead of beating yourself up, try using a little compassion. Underscoring the negative will only make things worse.
Positive reinforcement often plays out in more strong relationships, improved health and an overall sense of well-being. Researchers have found people who practice self-compassion perform better at work and at home. They also have lower levels of anxiety and depression.
Harvard Health suggests these ways to practice self-compassion.
Take good care of yourself - Add more fruits and veggies to your diet. Take breaks to rest and regroup. Go for a walk in your favorite park or treat yourself to a massage.
Make life healthier - Make sure you get enough sleep and get outside for daily exercise. Avoid working long hours and stressing out over deadlines. Stay calm and keep a relaxed pace.
Stay in touch with your feelings - Listen to your own thoughts in the same way you would to a friend's. Too often we just stuff our feelings in our pocket and soldier on. Letting those feelings out often leads to solutions and an overall sense of release and relief.
Put mindfulness to work - Take 10 minutes in the morning and 10 minutes at the end of the day to sit quietly and let your thoughts flow by without judgment. Later you may find yourself making better decisions and seeing things more clearly.
Put yourself first - Too often we put job, family and friends ahead of our wants and needs. If we do that too often we may feel resentful and frustrated. Set time aside that is reserved just for you to do whatever you wish.
Reach out for reinforcement - Most of us spend a great deal of time helping others, but once in awhile it's good to ask for help. When life seems to be full of challenges, call up a friend and spend some time over coffee or lunch just discussing life. Often those around you have answers from their own experience that might work for you.
As self-compassion becomes a habit, you may be pleased to see how much better life looks.
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