Finding Peace with Button Pushers
By Sara Butler
There are some people in life that are just plain difficult to deal with. They might be at work or in your own family, but one thing is for sure – for your own mental health you must find ways to deal with them effectively. Becoming skilled in the art of conflict resolution is important and a key part of personal growth. Here are a few tips to help you deal with some of the most difficult people in your life!
Understand What Lies Beneath
One of the first major steps to learning how to deal with difficult people is to understand what the real issue is. People are mean to others because of their own feelings about themselves. That manifests itself as cruelty to others as their criticism of themselves radiates out. These people can’t be cured overnight, so you have to work on the things you can control in the situation – yourself and your reaction to them.
Remind Yourself of Kindness
Kindness with others begins when you can find it for yourself. You can go about this by being generous with yourself and setting reminders when you’re getting too judgmental or critical. For example, you can wear a rubber band around your wrist that you flip when you find yourself judging yourself or other people. Snapping it against your skin will bring awareness back and help you to remember that the only person who really gets hurt when you’re being judgmental is you.
You have to go out to lunch and try to befriend someone who just gets under your skin but you do need to try to understand that they need compassion. There could be a variety of things going on in their life that makes them negative or arrogant or generally unpleasant to be around, but it’s just a defense mechanism. All you have to do is say hi to them when you see them – there’s no need to delve into their problems; don’t let them create negativity for you, either.
Realize You’re Not Always Right
You have to let go of the idea that you’re in the right in the situation. You must ask yourself how much more time you’re willing to devote to being right in the situation or trying to correct their behavior. Here’s a pro tip: You shouldn’t worry about it. At the end of the day, you’re the one who pays when you responde without manners with someone else, even if they get on your nerves.
Dealing with difficult people is something you have to master in life. These tips will hopefully help to make it easier!
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