How to Avoid Unhealthy Jealousy
I distinctly remember the last time that I got jealous. I mean, really jealous- as in, my blood was boiling, my face was probably an unflattering shade of red, and, had I been about twenty years younger, there would have been a lot of feet stomping. I was in college. I was a good student and, in my opinion, the best possible candidate for a coveted internship at a local museum here in Los Angeles. I jumped through all of the various hoops in order to get it- I wrote a brilliant personal essay, I attained multiple letters of recommendation from professors and employers, and I politely followed up after each interview. In the end, I didn't get it. Instead, a fresh-faced first year student ended up with my internship. And I was jealous. Jealousy is a weird but, for the most part, natural human emotion. However, it can also be extraordinarily unhealthy if we let it consume our lives. So, here are a few ways to avoid constant and unhealthy bouts of jealousy:
#1: Surround yourself with good, caring people.
The people with whom we interact on a daily basis have a pretty huge impact on our lives and, ultimately, our emotions depend a lot on them. When you engage in positive, healthy relationships in which you support and celebrate each other, then you are much more likely to feel empowered and won't feel the need to covet the lives of other people (because your life is pretty great!).
#2: Empower yourself.
Think about it- we are most likely to feel jealous when our self-esteem is low. Therefore, it's important to remind yourself of your best qualities on a regular basis. Each day, take a few minutes to reflect upon the things and people in your life that make it so rich- your family, your friends, your job, your pets, your experiences... Recognizing the positives will help you to keep your focus on maintaining and improving your own life.
#3: Don't compare yourself.
In this age of technology that we currently live in, the opportunities to compare oneself to others are plentiful, to say the least. With social media consuming so much of our lives, we are constantly being bombarded with other peoples' achievements. However, it's important that you separate your own life from the lives of others. And remember, people have the ability to intricately curate exactly what other people are seeeing on social media. It doesn't mean that they lead perfect lives or that yours is in any way lesser than.