Learning the Art of Saying No
By Donna Stark
Are you constantly agreeing to things and adding more to your already busy schedule because you have never learned the art of saying no to those around you? Do you feel as if your relationships with those people will suffer if you were to decline invitations or requests for help? While saying yes may seem like the easiest choice to make, it really can cause more problems and stress in your life. Why is that? Because every time you say yes to someone else, you are essentially saying no to your own priorities.
Protecting your time, energy, and sanity in today's busy world is important, but it's especially so if your days are non-stop from the minute you wake up to the time you go back to bed. Here are some of the reasons why you should establish boundaries and start saying no to others.
- You can accomplish more - There are only so many hours to use during the day. Imagine how much more you can accomplish by not overextending yourself and doing things for other people.
- You can focus on what's important - It's hard to be your best when your mind is scattered. Cut back on the things you do for others so you can really focus your attention on what's important to you.
- You will gain respect and control - Do you ever feel like people are taking advantage of you or your time? By setting healthy boundaries, you will be able to command respect and regain control of both your schedule and your life.
Now that you understand the importance of saying no, it's time to learn some easy tricks that will help you gain the confidence to do so. Take a look at the following suggestions.
- Be firm and prompt - Remember, you don't want to jeopardize the relationships you have, so if someone requests your time and energy, tell them no right away. Be direct, get to the point, and don't leave them hanging for a reply.
- Say no to the request - If you focus on saying no to the actual request, and not to the person asking, you will feel much better about your position. Don't think of it as letting the other person down.
- Offer an alternative - Saying no to someone doesn't mean you need to walk away without helping. Do you know of somebody else who could help or do you have an easier way of getting the job done? Who knows? The suggestion you offer may be better than the original request itself!
Your Life Is Important, Too
It's time to start prioritizing your goals and protecting your time and energy. By building up the confidence to say no to others, your days will feel a lot less crazy and the quality of your life will be significantly improved! Give it a try!
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