How to Successfully Connect When You Communicate
By Sandy Schroeder
Making the leap from speaking to really communicating can be an exciting moment. We all talk, and sometimes listen, but we do not always make a complete connection. True communication goes beyond the written or spoken word to connect with others at a human level.
As one Lifehack specialist said, “This is where classroom learning stops and life kicks in.” The more you learn how communication works, the better chance you have of succeeding wherever you are. Take the time to master the process.
Show that you care – If someone senses that you really could care less, they will probably quickly tune you out. It is much easier to get your message across when you show empathy for others. Then you become human and the dialogue can begin. Listen carefully as you try to see the other person’s point of view. Treat the other person as you would like to be treated.
Seek to solve differences – When we disagree with others, getting a message across can be almost impossible. The longer the disagreement goes on, the tougher communication becomes. Make it clear you want to find a middle ground. Focus on the issue, not the person. State your view and then actually listen to the other side. Try to reach the person, not just win the dispute.
Ask great questions – Invite people to share their ideas and give you their opinions. You can offer your own views in response to theirs, and ask more questions. Hopefully you will spark a discussion where everybody connects.
Be a receptive listener – When you listen to someone carefully you are creating a bond and learning who the speaker really is. You may be seen as friendly, receptive, trustworthy or generous. This may also open the door for your message, and lead to an ongoing exchange in which real communication becomes possible.
Understand body language – Some people feel almost 97 percent of communication is non-verbal. The message becomes the overall impression that the audience has of you, and that impression is usually made quite quickly. To create the best impression, start with a smile and direct eye contact delivered in a relaxed, confident manner. At the same time, assess the body language of your audience to gauge how you are doing.
The more you practice all of the communication skills, the better chance you have of really making the connections you want.
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