How to Bounce Back When You Stumble
By Sandy Schroeder
We all run into difficulties, and downturns as we move through life. They may be totally unexpected, or fully anticipated. Either way, how we handle them, makes all of the difference.
I have seen people simply melt and almost disappear. I have watched others shake their head a little, square their shoulders, and head back into battle.
Taking the weekend off to sulk, or doing a meltdown with a gallon of chocolate chip ice cream and old movies works, but then it’s time to get back in the game. Bouncing back is what it’s all about.
Here are a few steps to take from Lifehack.
Figure out what happened – Take time to think about what happened, what you did, and why. You may come up with new ideas to fix similar situations in the future. Then park the project and move on.
Turn the page - Take a deep breath and let go of those negative feelings. Walk, run, or just find a quiet spot to sit and breathe. Or spend time with your hobbies, music or recipes. Do whatever makes you smile.
Reach out – Talk to friends or talk with people who have encountered similar problems. You are sure to find lots of people with similar stories, with tips on coping.
Believe in yourself – Psychologists tell us we can usually find the inner resources to handle difficulties. They advise us to focus on the skills that we already possess, using them to figure out future moves.
Concentrate on strengths – As you evaluate past problems and new situations, find your strengths. Don't spend a lot of time on weaknesses.
Take time to look around– After a setback, it's tempting to stay in your usual groove, but expanding your view may be a smarter choice. This may be the time to brainstorm, calling up all sorts of things that interest you. One new idea may spark more, generating new energy. I have known many people who found new jobs and new careers when they responded to a downturn.
A friend of mine did her best to deal with a difficult situation to stay in her field. Finally the job became intolerable and she opted out. A few months later she was all smiles, having found a new position that came out of a group she was in. They needed a new financial manager, and she just happened to fit perfectly.
Whatever your situation is, stay flexible and keep moving. As a wise soul said, “You have only failed, when you fail to keep trying.”
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