Marriage, Money, and Mental Health
By Rachel Shouse
There are a multitude of different problems you could experience within your marriage. Money problems are the second leading cause of divorce with infidelity being the first. This can be hard for some people to wrap their mind around, but others understand. It's time to talk about marriage, money, and your mental health.
Marriage can be hard. While you won't always feel happy, you surely shouldn't feel miserable every day from sunrise to sunset. That should tell you that somethings wrong. Sometimes a simple conversation could be all that's needed to fix whatever is bothering you personally. Other times, couples need more help.
There's zero shame in needing professional help in your marriage. A lot of couples split because they couldn't solve their problems on their own. An outside perspective could be all that it takes to help you and your spouse see what the real problem is. Feelings can run deep, but they can hide deep too.
That one word can do so much damage within a marriage. It's a huge stress to far too many people, married or not. Whether you're experiencing money problems because you have far too little or there are secrets being kept that need to be brought out into the light. There's a really simple way to help couples hold each other accountable without breathing down each other's necks about every penny they spend.
It's called a joint bank account. A lot of couples prefer to keep their own funds to themselves. While this is understandable, it tends to backfire more times than not. Marriage is unity between two people. If you can't trust your spouse with your money, why would you agree to join them until death do you part? If this is an absolute no go for you, that's ok. It's just going to take more effort between you and your significant other.
Mental illness can rear its ugly head at the worst times. You would think that it would take a break when you need it the most. Unfortunately, that's just not how it works. Mental illness can be biological and could have nothing to do with your marriage. However, if you're struggling every day or struggling more than not, it's time to get help for yourself.
It's important to know when to ask for help. Whether your spouse wants to join you or not is rather irrelevant once you've reached a certain point. It comes down to taking care of you, until then though, fight for your marriage when you know it's worth saving.
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