How to Grow Kids Who Are Mentally Strong
By Sandy Schroeder
We all want our kids to do the right thing wherever they are, but a busy world can make it harder. Recently, parents.com came up with some ways to help kids make the right choices.
See what you think.
Don't support being a victim - When things go wrong and your child’s team loses, be there to talk with them, but don’t make them feel like victims. Everybody loses sometimes, but then we pick ourselves up and try again.
Never accept guilt - Teach your kids to never give in to guilt when someone asks them to be a friend and let them copy a paper. Tell them to say no, and understand why.
Help kids understand the world - If you make them think the world revolves around them, they may expect everything to be there for them. Instead, teach them to look for the things they have to offer to the world.
Avoid being too protective - We all want to keep our kids safe, but overdoing it may cause kids to fear everything. Teach them to face life and step out of their comfort zones when they need to.
Don’t let kids take over - Listening to kids is important, but letting them make all of the choices can be dangerous. Help them know their place in the family where everybody has a vote.
Don’t ask for perfection - Let them know we all fail sometimes. That’s normal, and nobody’s self-worth should depend on their performance. Encourage them to do their best and then move on.
Don’t let kids slide through - Requiring kids to do their share of the chores helps them accept responsibility.
Accept pain - Parents can’t protect kids from sadness or worry, but they can listen to them and help them work through their feelings.
Let kids make mistakes - Hovering over kids to make sure they never forget anything does not help them become self-sufficient. When they make a mistake they learn from the consequences.
Don’t encourage excuses - Letting kids get by with excuses or shortcuts tells them they can always find an easy way out.
Each family is different. These are just a few of the many ways to grow great kids. Whatever we do, we need to let them know we love them, and we will always be there for them.
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