4 Ways to Help New Parents
By Kate Gardner
For most people, the arrival of a new baby brings an outpouring of help. From advice to hand-me-downs to meals, new parents are often inundated with offers of assistance from families and communities. But what sort of help do new moms and dads really need? The short answer is that all new parents are not the same. Case in point, I felt uncomfortable when people visited after my children were born but a close friend told me she craved company after she brought her second child home. She needed more company while I needed less.
Here are a few common-sense suggestions to help the new mom or dad in your life. There are a number of other ways to support new parents but this list gives you a good starting point to figure out the best way to help.
Dropping by unannounced is probably never going to be a great idea, so make plans to visit and stay awhile! Ask mom and dad if there's anything that needs to be done or simply sit and talk. Watch for cues that you've overstayed and make sure the new parents know they can tell you when it's time to go.
When you're a new parent, getting out of the house can be overwhelming. Before kids, you grab your jacket and keys and you're out the door. Now there's a baby and about a billion tiny accessories and supplies that have to be packed and brought along. Another pair of hands (and another brain) can be a big help. Don't just help with the fun stuff -- offer help grocery shopping or getting to doctor appointments. New babies have tons of doctor appointments.
Bring food. It's so nice to have dinner taken care of when you have a new baby! Offer to drop off a meal or, better yet, use one of the many websites or apps to organize meals for a whole month. Snacks and desserts are often welcome, too. Mom and dad are working hard, they deserve a treat. Make sure to ask about any allergies or dietary restrictions to ensure your meals can be enjoyed.
This is the biggie, right? If you know the new mom and dad well enough, you could offer to help overnight. This could mean offering to change nighttime diapers or even taking over feedings for a block of time during the night so that the parents can get continuous rest.
While having kids is typically considered a choice, it's a hard job to take on. Knowing that your friends and family care can make it easier and a lot less lonely!
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