What Makes People Likeable?
I have a range of friends in varying sizes, types and ages – with a variety of likeable traits. For a variety of reasons, we fit together as friends. When you think of your friends you can probably single out those traits that make them likeable too.
Knowing what makes them likeable can provide the clues we need to follow suit. Remember what you like most about them, and do your best to return the favor. Jeff Hayden wrote about likeability recently and I think he might agree with these descriptions.
A friend who never forgets to call, always volunteers to take you to the airport, and will always listen no matter when you call, definitely qualifies as likeable.
A friend who remembers to ask how your projects are going, and then really listens when you go into endless detail about the work is also easy to like. They never yawn or nod. Instead they ask real questions and often have ideas to contribute.
A friend who knows immediately when you are overly stressed out, very sad, or bored out of your mind is also good to have. They can be counted on to help you quickly change out of a mood. Suddenly you will find yourself laughing, eating tacos and wondering why you felt so bad before.
A friend who knows how to be a rock when trouble shows up is gold. You know they will be there with suggestions, backup and whatever else it takes to get you through. I have lived through some rather interesting times and I have friends that I will remember forever who never blinked. They just kept showing up until everything was managed.
A friend who can always be counted on to see the best in the situation is a lifesaver too. Just when you are settling into gloom they will show you the other side of things. The dress that has suddenly become a size too small, or the cool new person who has forgotten to call can all be accepted as life moves on.
A friend who always shows up and always does what he says he will do is invaluable. When you need to leave town quickly, he can be counted on to feed the cat, pick up the mail and intercept packages. And of course he will water the plants and restock the fridge too. His other name is Angel!
I have four co-workers that I worked with some time ago, that all fit into the special friend category. We stay in touch and have lunch or dinner about once a month. But when trouble arises, we call emergency meetings and show up with sympathy, advice and whatever else it takes. Those are the kind of very likeable friends we all need.
Meanwhile, keep looking at what makes people likeable, and do what you can to pay it back.