Three Important Conversations You Should Have In a Relationship
If you are in a committed relationship, chances are that you have to really look hard in order to find quality time with one another. These days, we’re pulled in so many different directions every single day that oftentimes, our relationships get put onto the back burner and we pretty much find ourselves taking whatever time we can get. While it’s understandable that it happens, it’s not very conducive to an open and loving relationship. Therefore, even if your schedules are incredibly busy and lacking the sort of meaningful time for connection that you might hope for, here are a few conversations that you should aim to have with a partner on a weekly basis, in order to stay on track:
#1: Things That Make Each Other Happy
In order to let your partner know that you recognize and appreciate the things that he or she does for you on a regular basis, take a few minutes to vocalize them to him or her (and then, ideally, they will do the same for you). Let them know that you are thankful that they take the time to make the bed in morning, or walk the dog when they get home from work, or entertain the kids for a couple of hours while you workout and prep dinner. While they may not see these things as grand gestures, it will allow them to understand just how much these things add up to for you.
#2: Things That Frustrate Each Other
While it’s important to express gratitude in a relationship, it’s equally as important to voice any concerns or frustrations that you both may have. And with that comes the art of listening and accepting what you both have to say. Your partner may be irritated by the fact that you can’t seem to stick to your agreed upon budget, and you may feel resentment towards the fact that they always turn on the TV the moment they walk through the door. Instead of bottling these concerns and allowing them to fester, it’s best to air them out regularly in order to maintain healthy and honest communication with one another.
#3: Things That Will Improve The Relationship
Whether it’s bi-weekly date nights, splitting up household chores, or a monthly check-in with a marriage counselor, discuss openly the things that, as a couple, you could do in order to strengthen your relationship over time. And then, as difficult as it may be, stick to them.