How to Help Kids Cope With Big Changes
By Rachel Shouse
Watching your child or a child you love go through big problems and changes is one of the hardest things you may face. There's a big difference between you dealing with your own problems and watching your child have to navigate such a mature situation. Your child is going to need you through these times. Having to move, facing a close death within the family, and learning how to express these feelings in a healthy way are all things they're going to need to learn to cope with.
Helping Your Child Cope With Moving
Moving is hard on the whole family. It's not only a lot of work, but it brings its own set of struggles. You may be switching jobs while your child is switching schools and that's a lot to handle. There are ways to make this transition easier on all of you. Teaching your children to be brave by example is one idea. Tell your kids about the people you met and the friends you've made.
Learning by example is huge. You can also encourage your children to join clubs or sports. The more you get them out the better they will be for it. While you're out, point out familiar places if you can. Something as small as an item at a grocery store could bring some much needed comfort to your child's overwhelmed brain.
While moving is really difficult, facing something as permanent as death is something kids have trouble simply wrapping their heads around. It's a very complicated time and kids often feel confused. Don't be surprised when this comes out as anger or sadness. Children don't always know how to express how they feel verbally.
If you're seriously concerned about your child, get them help. There's no shame and it saves lives rather often. Make sure you have a discussion with them before showing up to a counselor or other professional. Let them know what's going on and how you think it's going to help. Kids don't always like to tell their parents everything and talking to someone new can help a lot.
Teaching Kids to Express Emotions in a Healthy Way
It can feel hard as adults to navigate how you feel, nonetheless a child. Especially when you're dealing with big feelings. While a child having an outburst may be frustrating, these are the times you need to take a very deep breath and get to the bottom of the tantrum. It's difficult trying to get your child to communicate with you when they're mid-fit. Just remember to be patient with them. Don't forget to give yourself a healthy dose of patience as well. You deserve it.
Big changes are hard. Simply put. Hard doesn't always feel like the proper word. Sometimes it feels like much more than that. Just remember to get help if you need it and do the same for your child. It's a wise decision that you'll never regret.
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