4 Bad Habits that Trip Up Our Bliss
By Sandy Schroeder
Sometimes feeling great is always just out of reach. If you keep thinking the next fitness achievement, soulmate or cool job will bring bliss, you may need to spot the habits that mess up everything.
Life coach and author, Andrea Owen, on the website WellAndGood suggests flipping the script by spotting the devious habits that “keep happiness at bay.”
You always expect disaster - When you fumble a project or say the wrong thing, you immediately expect major consequences. You anticipate tons of negative reactions or even the loss of your job. Owen calls this “catastrophizing.”
The antidote - Counter job worries by talking with your boss and co-workers to get a real feel for what’s going on. Talk with friends to reflect on what happened. If you feel you need to apologize for saying the wrong thing, do so. Honesty and real communication can go a long way to calm everything down.
You almost believe you are an imposter - If you are one of those people who insist you are lucky to be where you are, you may be buying into the imposter syndrome, which subscribes to a lack of skills, knowledge or capability.
The antidote - Smile and say thank you when someone praises your work. Get in the habit of accepting positive feedback instead of downplaying your efforts. Whenever you catch yourself slipping into the imposter mode, remind yourself of good work that you have done and compliments you have received.
You worry about being too soft or too tough - Finding a balance between being “cool and strong” and “warm and receptive” can be tough as we navigate through the day. Understanding and acknowledging your emotions is important.
The antidote - Know how you feel, and find ways to let your anger, sadness, or frustration out. One person may find a boxing class works just fine. Another may need time to talk everything through with a trusted friend. Whatever works, use outlets. Don’t bottle everything up and wait to see what happens next.
You let social media get you down – When you log on and absorb all of the details of your friend’s global travels, it’s hard not to sag a little as you consider where your next trip might be.
The antidote – Put together a list of some things you have done. It could be as basic as perfecting a headstand to putting together a flourishing business. When you make your next fitness goal or pull in a new client, write that down too.
Take a positive stand whenever you can and enjoy the results.
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