How to Spot a Rocky Friendship
By Sandy Schroeder
In the midst of a chaotic world, friends have become even more valuable, but sometimes friendships change. If you have friends who have let you down or made you question their loyalty, you might want to consider some of the signs of a changing friendship.
What Good Friends Look Like
Really good friends are there when we need them. They always listen and help when they can. Having them reduces the risk of heart disease or depression and helps us sleep better. On the other hand, friends who no longer seem to be in your corner, should be evaluated and dealt with. MindBodyGreen.com suggests we use these signs to see if we have unhealthy friendships.
They laugh at you or make negative remarks - Some people say unbelievable things and then laugh to make it seem like a joke. If you have a friend who is doing this, or making other rude remarks, it's time to ask why.
They demand 24/7 responses - They may or may not respond when you call, but they insist that you be there for them around the clock. Good friends respond promptly and do their best to stay in touch, but questionable ones make it a one-sided deal.
They totally control the relationship - When friends decide when you meet, where you will go and what you will do, they are being inconsiderate. Think about the relationship and decide if it is really worth the effort.
They insist that you know what they need - Really good friends can often read each others' minds, but they should never demand that kind of response. Communication should be a thoughtful give and take with each person making the effort to listen and help.
They are not honest with you - When a friendship reaches the stage where you cannot believe what they say, it may be time to cut the ties. If they tell you something that is untrue, you may let it pass the first time, but if it continues they may no longer be your friend.
They seem to be jealous - Friends normally support each other. If your friend no longer seems happy for your accomplishments, they may not be worth keeping. Give the relationship some time, but if their non-supportive attitude persists you may want to discuss it with them.
Friends are valuable assets and it is important to keep them if we can. Don't rush to delete them. Just be aware when they seem to be non-supportive, jealous, dishonest or overly demanding. Then try to discuss the situation to see if it can be fixed.
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